There are times when you meet a person and everything flows very naturally. Both intend to see each other, share time with the other and get to know each other. Like a newly lit fire, the relationship can grow into a blaze, or quickly fizzle out.
If it has happened to you that you are getting to know someone but you are still not involved in anything serious, and that person simply stops talking to you, or answers you less fluently than before and you can’t take any more of the anxiety or sadness of sensing that it has finished, please pay attention to this note.
Remember: your value is not determined by anyone but yourself. Do not be disappointed! Everything happens in life for your learning.
“Stopto the hypotheses
You can spend all day wondering what led the other to stop talking to you, or spend time recapping your steps to see if you did something wrong, or said something inappropriate.
Be careful because this can lock you in a spiral. The other has reasons for him that you cannot know unless you ask. That’s why, if it’s important to you, pick up the phone. Only then will you know what happened. If it’s just that he doesn’t want to see you anymore, even if he hurts you, the best thing you can do is let go. Again: don’t beat yourself up. Hold on tighter! It is you who can be valued the most.
Don’t act out of fear
Do not think a thousand times whether to speak or not speak, say or not say. And above all: don’t doubt what you constantly feel and say. Less than less you wonder if “he didn’t like you enough” and things like that.
Make a little silence and listen to yourself first. Is it important for you to say something? What do you want to ask or know? Don’t act out of fear, because you won’t be being genuine with yourself. If you think it’s worth a conversation, even if it’s the last one, ask for it.
communicate clearly
If you feel that you do want to say something, first be clear with yourself and then speak with that person clearly and from the heart; reproaches and claims are useless. Sometimes talking can help bring things to a close in a mature and loving way. Relationships don’t always go well; it can happen, but that doesn’t mean everything has to be cut off so abruptly.
Dont wait
Don’t wait for him to call or show up if he doesn’t, don’t delay what you want or have to do “in case he calls you”. Put yourself at the center, with your needs and desires. You can spend all day waiting pointlessly.
And above all:
Ask yourself if this is what you want for yourself
Let’s turn around the statements we always hear: “will I be good enough?” “He won’t like me?” by “is it good enough for me?” “I really like it?”.
People say much more with their actions than with their words, so the best thing you can do is look at the situation objectively and ask yourself if it is what you want, expect or project from a relationship.
If not, if you think you deserve someone who truly loves and values you, then don’t waste your time or energy. Do not be late. Who knows how to embrace your beautiful heart as much as you are learning to do will come.
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Sources:
the minds journal