We tend to look for love in other people, be it our parents and grandparents, or our friends. We believe that emotional bond with someone else will give us eternal happiness. Sometimes it is hard for us to understand that someone’s company is not what gives us happiness, but what allows us to maintain the happiness that should exist in us.
For some it takes a short time, for others much more and even understanding it, does not imply that we can maintain a relationship forever. However, to really begin to find the right person, we must stop looking for someone who makes us happy: first we must understand that we are our own happiness and only then can we complement it and share it with someone else.
However, that is never easy and along the way we will find couples who will come and go. Letting someone go is never easy, and for those moments when we don’t know where to go, these phrases can light our way.
“When one door closes, another opens, but often we see the closing door so long and sadly that we fail to notice another that has been opened for us” – Alexander Graham Bel
“Failure is the opportunity to start again. With more intelligence” – Henry Ford
“Never stop smiling, not even when you are sad, because you never know who can fall in love with your smile” – Gabriel García Márquez
“Everyone is allowed to fall in love with the wrong person at some point in their lives. In fact, it is a mistake not to.” – Harriet Evans
“Healing yourself is connected to healing others” – Yoko Ono
“It is better to be alone than unhappy with someone” – Marilyn Monroe
“Be patient and hard, someday this pain will be useful to you” – Ovid
“You know what’s the best thing about broken hearts? That can only really be broken once. The rest are scratches” – Carlos Ruiz Zafón
“Loving and winning is the best. To love and lose, the next best thing.” – William Makepeace Thackeray
“Not being loved is a simple misfortune. The true misfortune is not knowing how to love.” – Albert Camus
“It is hard, it is painful, not to be loved when you still love, but it is much harder to be still loved when you no longer love” – Georges Courteline
“It is necessary to have loved, then to lose love, and then to be able to continue loving” – Vincent Van Gogh
“Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that that too was a gift” – Mary Oliver
“It is not pride, it is love. Being able to say goodbye is growing up” – Gustavo Cerati
“The moving finger writes, and having written it goes away. Not all your piety, not all your wit, can cancel half a line of that.” – Omar Khayyam
It’s not up to us to save every relationship we have. We can try to make it work, but in effect, as Harriet Evans says, it’s almost a requirement to have relationships that don’t work. Pain is a great teacher and learning to see in the dark allows us to appreciate things much more when we are in the light.
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