Long-distance love is not something new, as much as it may seem. Who doesn’t know one of those stories where someone emigrated to America leaving her fiancée behind, writing her letters that took months to arrive, until they could propose?
The reality is that things are much simpler now than they were then. Today communication is immediate, no matter where we are on the globe. That has favored the possibilities for those who love each other at a distance. Before, sending a letter to your loved one and receiving a reply could take weeks. Instead, now we can talk day and night, almost as if we were next to that person… almost.
It’s true. We can find out what our loved one is doing, talk about what we ate today, the people we saw, how work went. But we’re not going to lie to each other either; sometimes that warm hug is missing, a good night kiss, his hand holding ours.
That today there are more tools than in the past to maintain a love at a distance does not mean that it is an easy task. In fact, as revealed by Google, in 2017 the most searched question about relationships was “How to make long-distance love work?”.
Unfortunately, there is no single answer. Those who manage to maintain their relationships at a distance have their tricks, as well as those who fail give their point of view. But there are some tips that can surely help your long-distance relationship improve.
1. Set the record straight
In any relationship, speaking clearly about each other’s desires and intentions is essential. But even more so in a long-distance relationship, because sometimes, if things are not clear, they can start to feel like they are wasting their time.
Where are you going with the relationship? What future do you imagine together? How long will they have to endure the distance?
It doesn’t matter if it’s a long or short time that they will have to stay apart, but for long-distance love to work, both have to know that the relationship has a future. Otherwise, fatigue will end up winning.
2. High confidence
Maybe it’s obvious, but you should know that if you are facing a long-distance love, you should trust the other person. Attacks of jealousy, paranoia and mistrust in general can undermine any relationship, but in a long-distance relationship they can become real monsters.
If you’re not willing to trust that your partner is being faithful and truthful to you, you’d better leave the relationship soon.
3. Not everything is digital
Digital communication has narrowed distances, it is true. But it’s also taken a bit of the magic out of it. However… Traditional mail still exists!
Dare to send your love a long letter written by hand. Spray your perfume on her, send her a printed photo, or perhaps a fragment of your day-to-day life: flowers, something you bought, a concert ticket…
It may not seem like much to you, but you do not know what a big difference it will make to have something physical that reminds him that you are close.
4. Watch the same show together
Sharing things with your love at a distance is not impossible. For example, they can watch the same series at the same time, and comment on it on WhatsApp. Something so simple will unite them in an intimate way, almost as much as seeing her together in the same chair.
That yes… It is not worth advancing chapters after your partner has gone to sleep!
5. Have a video date
The big problem with mobile is that it gives us the feeling of doing something when in reality we are doing something else. For this reason, in a long-distance relationship, you may talk a lot with your partner but always doing something else at the same time: washing the dishes, traveling on the subway or visiting your mom.
Therefore, setting a day to have a virtual date is a good idea. A moment when it’s just the two of you behind the screen. There they can see each other on video, and have intimate talks… even very intimate!
If you have seen the movie “Her”, you may remember that one of the most romantic sex scenes in movie history has no physical contact between the two members of the couple.
6. Do not hide your feelings
If one day you feel that the relationship isn’t working, that you can’t stand the distance, or whatever, don’t hide it. We said it at the beginning, the best thing in a long-distance love is to have things very clear.
Also, talking to your partner about your fears, your doubts, and your sadness will bring you closer together than just talking about how perfect everything is. At some point things will come to light in the worst way!
Be very honest with yourself and overcome problems in twos.
Have you had a long distance love? What advice would you add?