We have all experienced unrequited love at some point, and we know it hurts. It is difficult to know that the person you like does not see in you more than a friendship, or a simple temporary relationship. But a broken heart is not the end of everything.
I know it seems so now. If you are reading this, it is surely because you recently went through this situation and it hurts. You even feel it in your body. But eventually the pain passes. You recover, you go back to your normal life and sooner or later, you fall in love again.
But for all that to happen, you first have to be convinced that it will be like that. And above all, do your best to get ahead. You won’t solve anything by staying at home crying all day. Cheer up, the world doesn’t end with that person.
If you want to get over that unrequited love, these tips can help you.
1. Accept the situation
Many times the pain of your unrequited love makes you not want to accept it. But it is, without a doubt, the worst thing you can do. That all your confidence and security are placed in the fact that perhaps things will change does not do you good and does not help you to move on.
Accept that today things are as they are. Can they change tomorrow? Of course! Life goes around a thousand times! But you can’t sit around waiting for everything to turn around, because it doesn’t work that way.
2. Stop “stalk” to that person
Stop following the person on social media, block their WhatsApp number, and if you can’t do it for some reason, use an app that limits how you use your phone. You can’t spend all day looking at their photos and following each of their steps!
As harsh as it sounds, it is possible that person is living their life while you mourn the loss. It hurts, but it’s reality. It is healthier for you to start concentrating on what is good for you.
3. Try to stop idealizing that person
When we are in love, and even more so when love is unrequited, we tend to idealize the person. Since we can’t be with her and see how she really is, we imagine it. We believe that he is the most tender, loving and perfect human being in the whole world.
Try to do the exercise of thinking of that person as someone normal. You may like it, yes. But he also has flaws, he also does things that aren’t wonderful, and he’s just as good a person as others.
4. Avoid being monothematic when talking to your friends
We all know that we can lean on our friends when we have lovesickness. It’s okay to look for them when you’re heartbroken, they’ll help you.
But avoid being monothematic. It doesn’t do you good to be talking about that person all the time. He is already. Count it once, twice. Then talk about something else.
The idea is also to use your friends to distract you from the subject and if you only talk about it, you will not succeed.
5. Spend your time on things you like
The most important thing to overcome unrequited love is that you can put yourself back in the spotlight. Spend your time on things you like, prioritize the things you have put aside. Stay busy.
That will not only help you keep your head on something else and gradually forget about that person who broke your heart. Also, and above all, it will restore your confidence, it will help you discover everything you can do alone. It will feel amazing!
6. Do not rush to find another partner
Remember: the best way to heal a broken heart is to start loving yourself more, to invest that energy in enjoying your solitude, in understanding yourself better, in discovering everything you are capable of doing.
Do not rush to find another person to “replace” the one who made you suffer. First, because all of us who have had a broken heart know that this is very easy to say and not so easy to do. Second, because it is not fair to the person who comes to “replace” another. And third, because you really don’t need a yes or yes love to be happy.
Does that mean stop flirting and never see anyone again? Of course not! Have fun, enjoy yourself, meet as many people as you want, but do it for you.
In the end, you will discover that sooner than you think you are celebrating life again.
And you, what have you done to recover from unrequited love?
Sources:
The Mind is Wonderful
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