We have all felt attraction to a person whom we did not know very well how to approach. Sometimes the more you like someone, the more difficult it can seem to get their attention. Insecurity wins you over, and the mere fact of thinking that this person can reject you leads you to do nothing.
What you need in those cases is to approach in a subtle and charming way. Of course, you have to know that the process requires patience. If you want a quick answer, your best bet is to play all your cards and see what happens.
But if you think you can wait and prefer to do a finer job, then you need some subliminal seduction techniques. That’s the term used when you’re trying to attract a person without explicitly saying so.
1. Make that person feel good about you
Making the person you like feel comfortable in your company is gaining a lot of ground. That will allow you to get closer little by little, and if she wants to spend time with you because it feels good, it will give you space to show the best version of yourself and continue seducing her.
Be friendly, do not create hostile climates, show yourself as a relaxed person, and you will be creating fertile ground to continue with your subliminal seduction.
2. Use phrases that make the person feel valuable
Everyone loves to feel valuable. Of course, to the person you are interested in too. So, nothing better to get his attention than to highlight his virtues.
If you want to subtly get their attention, then a great way is to comment on their value, but in an indirect way. For example, you can be talking about someone you really like, mentioning some of their strengths, and then saying, “Well, he’s a bit like you.”
You can also mention how smart he is when he explains something to you, or give him a compliment.
This is not to say that you are being fake, just that you take advantage of the opportunities you have to tell him the things that you like about his personality.
3. Pay attention to what he likes
If you want to conquer someone in a subtle way, you must pay close attention. That will be one of your main tools. Find out what they like, think about what they have in common or what you admire, and try to talk about it.
It can be something simple, like telling her that you like the clothes she’s wearing; Or it can be something bigger, like rescuing her polished taste in music or telling her how much you admire her public speaking.
4. Do not forget the power of the gaze
Until now, we have only talked about words, but our body also has a lot of power of seduction. The important thing, when it comes to looks, is to achieve a perfect balance.
If you keep looking into their eyes all the time, you can intimidate the other person. But if you don’t use your seductive look from time to time, you would be missing out on a great opportunity.
Sometimes looking that person in the eye can be a forceful way to show that you feel something without saying a single word.
5. Don’t forget to smile either
In the first point we told you about the importance of making the other person feel comfortable with you, and smiling is an excellent way to generate that pleasant atmosphere.
They say that smiling is the universal language, and have no doubt that it is so. Whenever you are by his side, smile, show your optimism, try to make your smile what he remembers best about you.
Again, it is not about acting falsely, but about demonstrating the joy and well-being that their presence generates in you.
6. Approach casually
If you are subtle when entering the personal space of the other, you will generate an intimacy that will not be uncomfortable. For example, you can approach to show him something on your mobile, and stand shoulder to shoulder.
Or in a very noisy space, get close to his ear so he can hear you when you speak to him. And always, but always, there is the famous excuse of removing lint from her clothes.
Anyway, finding spaces to shorten the physical distance between you and the person you love is a good idea, as long as you do it with respect!
7. Leave room for mystery
If you want to be subtle, maybe it’s a good idea to dose what you show of yourself a bit, because this way you will also give that person space to start approaching.
Give him room to ask and be interested, let him be surprised. We all love to discover mysteries little by little!
Do you have other strategies? Share them in the comments.
Sources:
academy of love
She today