What weighs more, the good times or the bad? That is one of the universal questions when it comes to talking about an ex. The best relationships of your life are always the most painful and no matter how many smiles that person gave you, they also gave you tears.
Can you really be friends with your ex? It is difficult to find a 100% honest answer, because there are those who say that they do not miss that ex-partner about whom they know nothing today, but surely the notion of not knowing what happened to that person eats at them inside, but there are also who say that it is possible, but die of jealousy every time they find out about some new adventure of their ex-love.
There is no concrete answer, but maybe if you follow the following points we can help you a little.
Is it really worth it?
There are exes who are so casual that they can be your friends because they weren’t that important in your life, but there are others who became essential people 365 days a year and without whom you don’t know what would become of you if you lost them. The first ones are so insignificant that you can lose them without suffering, but the second ones, you must realize that no matter how much they have helped you in the past, it is impossible to forget the connection you have and transform it into a simple friendship.
Is it a problem for your future?
There are ex-partners who stay by tradition, mutual friends or other circumstances, and everything seems perfect. There is no tension, the two continue with life and become friends, until one has a partner. If your new partner feels insecure about the relationship you have with your ex, is that a reason to walk away? It is your decision and you are free to prefer a friend to your new partner, but that person can also save a lot of insecurity and leave.
Do they feel jealous?
Do you want to keep that person as a friend because you want to monitor their future relationships? No relationship should be kept just because of jealousy. If the relationship was toxic, this will only make it even more so. Friendship is about freedom, not surveillance.
do you feel sorry
Another lousy reason to do it is because the other person asks you to. Maybe you have the ability to move on and seek your happiness away from your ex, but she can’t and implores you to continue one way or another. Maybe it’s not important to you, but falling for those games is starting a new stage of manipulation that no one should be a part of.
Do they work as friends?
Relationships are unique. Sometimes they may have started out as friends, but as they evolved into a couple that was left behind. Wanting to return to that can be nonsense that ends up destroying the little and good that they still had together. Sometimes friendship is not the next logical step, but walking away.
These questions seek to make you reflect on your own relationship. There are those who may genuinely be friends with their ex, but perhaps, after examining your true feelings, you find that the most logical thing to do is move on.