You want to do everything: have an interesting life, your own business, travel the world, have many friends, the best photos on Instagram, and so on. The problem is that you have 24 hours a day just like everyone else.
That gives you the feeling of always being behind things, a feeling of suffocation that becomes difficult to manage. Does it ring a bell? Maybe you need to start live more peacefully
What does that mean? Take things more calmly, accept that life won’t be enough to do everything and that’s okay, understand that the world keeps turning with or without you.
I know what you are going to say: all very nice, but… How do you do it?
The truth is that there are no magic formulas, but surely if you apply these ideas, you will already notice a difference. Remember: living more peacefully depends on you.
1. Cancel plans
Many times you accept plans that are not to your liking. Or even worse, that they have nothing to do with what you expect from your life. Simply for not saying no, or for fear of being bored at home.
But look at your schedule and ask yourself: Do you really want to party on a Thursday? Do you want to see that rock band so much?
If the answer is no, cancel the plan. If the people you met are true friends, they will understand you. And, from now on, before saying yes to any plan, think carefully if it really adds to your life.
2. Review your list of “things I have to do before…”
Perhaps as a teenager you made a long list of things that you should do or try throughout your life. And perhaps you have never looked at it again, and it has become something like the 10 commandments of your life.
But life changes, ideas and circumstances change. And the truth is that you probably won’t be so tempted to learn to play the saxophone or study Japanese. Why keep carrying that backpack?
Review your “shoulds” with some regularity. Eliminate what no longer serves, that no longer excites you. And what still makes your heart light up… Make it a priority and start today!
3. Learn to delegate
If you’re reading this, I bet you’re having a hard time delegating tasks. You are one of those people who carry everything on their back, who take care of everyone, who cares about everything and in a moment, they realize that they are alone with a lot of responsibilities that should be shared.
Have I got it right? Well, it’s time to change that.
If you are in a relationship, remember that the house is the responsibility of both of you. If you have children, do not be shy about turning to the grandparents… They will be happy! And if there are no grandparents, there’s also no shame in hiring a babysitter so you can take a night off.
Don’t carry everything. To live more peacefully, you must learn to delegate what is not your responsibility.
4. Put taxes on automatic debit
You get rid of a huge responsibility by putting your accounts on automatic debit. You don’t have to go every month to pay, you save lines and inconveniences.
At best, check from time to time that everything is in order. Use the Internet in your favor!
5. Look for simple ways to take care of yourself
It is normal that you want to be in shape, eat healthier, look good, etc. But don’t underestimate the time and effort that goes into it. Maybe you feel so stressed because you’re setting your expectations too high.
Look for little things to do every day to feel better about yourself, without that meaning spending all your free time getting fit.
6. Stay away from social networks
Social networks are a great source of stress, and prevent you from living more peacefully. Why? It is that those endless discussions on Facebook, the bad news on Twitter and the perfect lives of Instagram influencers are not reality; they are only a tiny portion of it.
So, they make you believe that what you do is never enough, that you never know too much, that everything is wrong.
Do not be fooled by the likes: social networks do not raise your self-esteem.
7. Do small things
Changing the world may not be within your reach. Make a little less garbage, yes. So with everything.
Having huge dreams is worth it. It is what moves us every day. But remember that those longings are the horizon, it’s what helps us move. If you wear them as an obligation, you will live with a feeling of frustration and guilt.
Set small but meaningful goals, and you’ll have a greater sense of personal accomplishment without so much stress.