It is typical: when something that hurts us happens, it seems that everyone has the perfect remedy for what ails us. Just wait for a hangover day for each of your friends to tell you the best way to get rid of your headache, your thirst and the desire to go back in time and not drink anything. The same goes for heartbreak. When you are the one who suffers, everyone has advice and ways to not feel sad, the bad thing is that most of that rhetoric revolves around the idea of ”don’t be sad.”
People always want their loved ones not to suffer, but when a relationship ends, it doesn’t matter if it was on good terms or not, it just takes time to hurt, time to recover and time to start living again. This advice may be similar to what others have given you, but it is not meant to hide the pain.
give the pain time
The idyll ended and the reality is that what you once thought was forever expired much sooner than you thought. It’s okay to have a period of sadness to remember with all your strength what you had and lost. Burying that pain only postpones the inevitable and is best left to happen as a quick detox.
Keep going
After that it is not 100% sure that you will not relapse anymore, but as long as you do not maintain contact with that person, it will be much easier to start again. Do not have that person in your contacts, do not get carried away by the false logic that a mature person does not delete their ex-partner from social networks. Think about your mental health and not about what others are going to say about you.
keep your head busy
A lot of people get down on their ex on Sundays, that’s not some inexplicable coincidence. It’s the one day most don’t have obligations, so your mind isn’t working all the time and goes off to those hidden corners where we start to feel bad about what happened and what didn’t.
The only way to get over someone is to let time pass and if we keep busy all the time (reading, talking with friends, learning new things) one day we will understand that we are happy for who we are, not for who we are with someone plus.
do exercise
The endorphins that are released during exercise help to raise your self-esteem. In addition, feeling that you are transforming your body is appropriate in a time of change. Change your mind, your body, your life and discover that maybe once you thought that person was the love of your life, but now you have another life.
go on a trip alone
It can be really difficult to go on a trip without anyone else, because your head can become a real prison that only reminds you of your ex, but if you let things happen, the first day in a hostel you will already be surrounded by strangers who in less time than you think they will become close friends. This will make you see that there is always an opportunity to meet someone new and that the past is not final.
It is not a lie, you may never forget that person and episodes that make you feel bad will always come back, but without a doubt, doing this will help you at critical moments and afterward it will only be a good memory.