We all live in the digital age, and we are intimately linked to technology. The mobile is a kind of extension of our hand and we feel that we need to be connected all the time.
The problem appears when that reality intervenes in our social relationships. And above all, when it brings problems in the couple. Many relationships in recent years begin to have conflicts for reasons related to technology. Many more than you imagine.
Therefore, if you want to take care of and keep your partner, it is not a bad idea to agree to respect these digital rules that can really change your life.
disconnect to connect
Do you know what Phubbing is? It is the term used when a person ignores you for looking at her phone. Do you know what is the problem? That, according to surveys, almost half of people say that their partner has this attitude towards them.
Being always connected implies, in some way, disconnecting from the environment, from what is happening around us. And when that happens in the couple, things do not end well.
In fact, as a recent study acknowledges, being too tied to the phone can cause sadness, feelings of loneliness and an inability to concentrate.
Therefore, the best thing you can do to have a healthy couple is to look for moments in which both disconnect from the phone to connect with each other. They can decide to set a time limit to see the mobile, or decide to go out without it when they have an appointment.
They will quickly notice how their relationship takes an unexpected turn.
Be careful with social media posts
It is scientifically proven that those who “share” their love the most on social networks are the most dissatisfied people in their relationships. As you may have guessed, making posts on Facebook or Instagram is a way to make up for the shortcomings that the relationship has in reality.
Now, if you are the one who is going through a difficult time in the relationship and you think that it will be fixed by showing the world that everything is perfect, you must be very careful and know that this is not the solution.
There is nothing wrong with uploading a loving photo, of course. Even several. The real problem is believing that this will solve the problems. Things are resolved at home!
Agree on communication
There are couples who need to be connected all the time: to know exactly what the other is doing at all times. Mobile makes this possible.
The reality is that, although maintaining spaces of intimacy is important in a couple, if both parties agree to write to each other all the time they spend apart, that’s fine. They are their own rules.
The problem is when one of the two members of the couple is too demanding with the other. “Why didn’t you text me when you got off work?” “Why didn’t you reply to my messages when you were with your friends?”, “I need you to text me as soon as you finish what you’re doing” are phrases that can ruin a relationship.
So, it is better to agree beforehand and know the needs of the other. The fact that a person prefers to spend less time with the mobile does not mean that he does not love you. Understanding that can make a huge difference to the relationship.
Do you agree with these rules? Would you put them into practice in your partner?
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