Getting to know a person thoroughly is something that takes years. Even people we think we know better than anyone else surprise us more than once.
But sometimes, just asking a few questions is enough to get a first idea of what a person is like.
If you are getting to know someone and want to form a more complete opinion, you can take advantage of a moment of relaxation to start asking questions. They can do it as a game: the famous “ping pong”.
But with these ideas… You will be a Chinese quiz pong champion! So make a mental note, and on the next date do some kind of interview.
1. Where would be your ideal vacation?
Talking about travel always breaks the ice. Who does not like to travel? In addition, with this question they can find common ground, about what each one enjoys doing in their free time.
2. If you could have an interview with any historical figure, who would you choose?
This question will give you some context about the person’s philosophical concerns. About his interests, and also about his cultural background.
3. What do you like most about yourself?
It is a question that will allow you to discover many things about the person. How she sees herself, and what she prioritizes: the exterior or the interior.
It can also help you discover something you didn’t know at all about that person.
4. What book is essential for you?
This question will allow you to find out if the person has a reading habit. But on the other hand, the books talk a lot about someone’s personality. Knowing which one is most important to a person says a lot about him.
5. If you could choose a super power, what would it be?
That question comes in handy to test the other’s imagination. But it will also help you to see if he is a very structured person or not so much. These types of questions open the door to play, laughter and imagination.
6. What are your 4 favorite series?
In the world of series, having common tastes is essential. So knowing what your favorite series are will be important.
In addition, you will be able to see if he really likes drama, romance, or rather action.
7. What song would serve to summarize your personality? Why?
Music also speaks a lot about people, and this can be a difficult question, but a very useful one. It can be a spectacular way to unearth things about each other that would otherwise come to light.
8. What do you think your friends would say about you if you asked them to describe you?
This question lets you know how you think others see you. That is to say, the image that it projects (or that it thinks it projects).
By asking him about his friends in particular, you induce the projection to go more towards the positive, and thus generate greater confidence.
9. What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done?
If you want to know what a person’s limits are, this is the ideal question. You will thus discover what he thinks he is crazy and what he does not, and therefore, you will be able to infer how far he is willing to go in other aspects.
10. What do most people think of you that is not true?
If the question about how your friends see you leads to a positive projection, this can be similar but with rather negative aspects.
From this question, something may appear that the person would like to change but cannot. And maybe it can shoot down an idea you had too!
11. What is the oldest memory you have? Or the clearest?
Touching on the subject of childhood can lead to talking about many things. Upbringing, the early years, points in common.
It is a very strong point of rapprochement with the other, and this question is a good trigger for it.
12. When did you realize that you were growing up?
This question is ideal to talk about the maturity of the other (and, why not? ours too). It has to do with what events marked, for him or her, the end of childhood, of adolescence, the transition to adulthood.