Being in a relationship is, for most people in the West, almost synonymous with monogamy and fidelity. But this is beginning to be called into question. Can a person really maintain her fidelity for many years?
But there is also another problem: for everyone, fidelity does not mean the same thing; even, sometimes, within a couple. One can assume that the other thinks the same, and this will not be the case without either of them knowing it. For example, for some being unfaithful implies only a passage to action, that is, or having sex or kissing other people. For others, falling in love (sex doesn’t count).
But there are some indications, some things that may indicate that something of the infidelity as many people understand it, begins to appear; even, still, without that person assuming it.
On this, a study by the French Institute of Public Opinion collected information on the sexual lives of 3,000 women and found that although infidelity was taboo for most of them, they had not realized that they had also been unfaithful until they the specialists told him.
What are the ways to be unfaithful that most do not take into account?
- Feeling much more empathy with another person than with your own partner.
- Wanting to spend more time with another, when you even feel that there is sexual tension.
- Flirt with another on social networks.
- Talk to someone constantly about everything you feel and what happens to you; and, in parallel, stop talking so much with your partner.
- Frequently see another
- Send each other messages that become romantic.
- Desire and fantasize to be with another.
- Being aware of another, their movements, trying to like them or to make them notice you.
- Kissing, even if that doesn’t reach a next stage.
- Justify what you say or do with another for having drunk too much.
The study indicated that in the end, what fidelity means is not the same for each person or for each couple. That is why many of the above statements may not seem like infidelity to you, or on the contrary, you may feel that it is the worst thing that could happen to you if your partner does it.
Fidelity is then a debate that at some point must take place within the couple, to establish shared agreements and that no one gets hurt. There are no things that are “wrong” or not; That will depend on what each one decides. After all, “every couple is different”, right?
What do you think?